Sexuality is how we express ourselves as a sexual being.
Nowadays, most people think of 'sexuality' in terms of who we like sexually, and whether we're heterosexual (like people of the opposite gender), homosexual (like people of the same gender - usually gay if we like males, and lesbian if we like females) - or bisexual (like both males and females).
There is no need to try to define yourself, so don't worry if you're not sure who you like, or if your feelings seem to change from one week to the next. People's feelings can change, even in their 30s, 40s, or even later.
If you want to tell family and friends
- Their reactions will usually be positive but a few people may be less supportive than you'd like so be prepared for this.
- Sometimes you might be told that they 'knew all along' but other people may be completely surprised.
- Some people might tell anti-gay jokes before or sometimes after you have 'come out' to them. This could be their way of coming to terms with what you have said, or it may be a form of bullying.
- If you become an actual victim of crime, however, due to your being gay then you should report it to the police. Homophobic crime is treated seriously.
- Whatever someone's sexuality, ANYONE who is sexually active can get a sexually transmitted infection.
If you're worried or concerned in any way
- There are national and local support organisations
- There are also support groups if you are of a certain religion and worried about your sexuality