Self Harm

When self harm becomes a way of 'coping' with life/emotions, it is a sign that there are problems that need sorting out and that support is needed from family, friends or others.

Helping yourself in the short term

Here are some ways to cope:

• let out your  emotions - e.g. hit a pillow, tear paper, shout, throw, write it all out.
• relax - e.g. go for a walk, listen to music, have a long bath.
• talk - e.g. face to face with someone, on the telephone, to a friend or helpline, via text or email, MSN or to a tape.
• do something physical, such as go for a run - this can be a useful distraction and produce 'feel good' chemicals called endorphins into the body.

How friends and family can help

• Keep an open mind
• Help them work out who else can help
• Support any positive steps they take
• Don't judge the person or jump to conclusions
• Don't try to make them stop - this might add to the pressure they feel
• Don't get angry with them even though their behaviour might shock you

If you think that the situation is getting worse or that their life is in danger, it is important to get help from a trusted adult or professional as soon as possible. A teacher, school nurse, youth worker or PA can help you find the right support